Thanks for Saying Thanks

When we first meet someone, it’s easy to appreciate the things about them that caught our attention in the first place.

Over time, our level of comfort with that person can rise to levels where we can easily assume that they know about our feelings for them, and assumptions can quickly erode into neglect.

We say thanks for the other person as much as we say it for ourselves.

As humans, we get used to things very quickly, and without regular reminders about what’s important in our lives, we can slip into routines that do a disservice to ourselves and the ones we love.

Ep057: Relationship Skills in a Horror Movie


This is the Everything is Like Dating Podcast.

On this episode we discuss survival, teamwork and communication. In the context of if you were actually in a Horror Movie.

Mentioned Movie: Behind The Mask: The Rise of Leslie Vernon (Imdb)

Shownotes:

[2:26] Halloween; Emily’s Favorite Holiday

[4:25] “SAW came to life”

[5:40] Michael Myers – Halloween

[8:18] Supernatural enemies

[8:53] “You’d be drugged but you’d have to solve puzzles to get out.”

[10:01] Having another person to fight back with & co-ordinate

[10:38] “What if we were in a vampire movie?”

[11:07] “Communication, Teamwork & Batting Practice”

[11:47] “If you were really in a Horror Movie, would you be able to still think rationally?” Emily has a fix.

[13:50] “The Leslie Vernon Movie

 

Takeaway: Communication, Teamwork & Batting Practice

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Why we have so many Problems Communicating with Each Other

also cross-posted on Medium.com

You’ve felt it before.

The gut-wrenching feeling that you get when you say something to someone, and you realize that your words have “fallen on deaf ears”. You try to say it again in hopes that this time, you’ll get through. Or you give up, frustrated, exasperated and wondering why. Why it’s so hard to convey your thoughts to the other person.

This has happened to me many times, sometimes ending friendships and relationships. Over the years, something became apparent.

We’re speaking different languages to each other.

To be more accurate, we speak many different sub-languages, where each person’s words hold meanings unique to that individual.

What do I mean?

We largely communicate in short-hand with each other with great contractions of more complex thoughts distilled into maybe a few words. I don’t mean knowing the dictionary meaning of words, but the more elusive “What did they mean by that?”

I can say something that carries a set range of connotations and history from my life experience, yet those same words could impart vastly different implications and intent from the perspective of someone else.

When this happens, it becomes much more difficult to resolve misunderstandings. When the means for fixing a problem itself exacerbates the very said issue, molehills make mountains of themselves.

In language, the sum is greater than the parts, and we can’t effectively communicate with each other until we understand what each participant defines those parts as.